201011.06

Alleged sexual assault at a tech conference

Let me preface this by saying I know neither of the two people involved in this situation nor have any connection to them other than the fact that I use both Google and Twitter.

A Google tech writer recently accused Twitter engineer of sexual assault on her blog, and given the responses shot at both sides (Noirin Shirley, accuser, and Florian Leibert, accused) I thought I'd inject my personal thoughts on both the actual report given by Noirin and the responses to the incident.

First off, it's a big deal to make an accusation like this. Careers hang in the balance, and blah blah blah, we've all heard this already. That said, a lot of women are sexually assaulted and never mention it. A lot tell a few people and it never goes anywhere. A lot try to get help but it never comes.

I think it's not only amazing, but brave that Noirin had the guts to stand up to her assaulter and accuse him in public. It takes brass balls to do this. It also takes brass balls to do this knowing full well the responses you're going to get because of it. I'm not one to not take stands on things, so I will say I think she's awesome. I'm sick of women getting pushed around and there being no consequences for the men doing it.

I also do know that women make false accusations, but in my experience the ones who do so have a history of doing so and don't start off doing it later on in life.

Now, at least one publication is saying that although it's great to be public about this matter, it's not ok to be public about the assailant's name. I have to disagree. So many assaults go unresolved because it's hard to prove unless you have a police officer right there watching, or at least 10 witnesses. Something like this wouldn't hold up in court. It's important that the person who did it be publicly recognized for his actions, because otherwise there very well may be no consequences, ever.

A lot of people are saying that she should say absolutely nothing until the police investigate and the courts make a decision. I have to wonder if they are batshit insane. First off, the police generally have "more important" things to worry about than "hey sum guy jus touched my privatz," unfortunately. And without any material evidence, it will never hold up in court. What I'm getting at is that even though I love our justice system here in good old USA, there are many things that will fall through the cracks. Does Noirin really need the police or court system to validate what she experienced that night? That's fucking insane! She knows what happened better than the police or courts, and has every right to talk about it. Plus, she's opening herself up to a world of legal trouble by doing this, which is just one more reason she's brave for doing it (and one more incentive to NOT do it falsely).

Let me put it this way: If somebody assaults you, you have the right to fucking let the world know who did it and what happened! Just because it won't hold up in court (and believe me, it won't) doesn't mean it didn't happen, and doesn't mean the assailant shouldn't suffer the social consequences. If a rape happens in the woods and nobody is there to witness it, did it happen? The courts, rightfully so, say "No." But it still happened, and the aggressor needs to pay for it in some way.

If she lied about it, then that's another issue entirely. If it did happen, as she said it did, then good for her for letting the world know and making the world that much safer for women.

Either way, there are some very good counter-arguments and discussion on the reddit comments page for the post, which I spent a good amount of time reading before making this post.